If you’re looking for an E/R fic where Enjolras is asexual and Les Amis are an awesome activist group, look no further, for that fic is here. Or rather that series of fics is here, and it’s incredibly awesome and I would recommend it to anyone who likes Les Mis, or any ace looking for a well-written asexual character.

asexy-slice-of-cake:

unseendaydream:

I made a thing

Totally legit yo

I sent an email to an LGBT foundation that gives out scholarships, asking them why asexual people weren’t listed as eligible for the scholarships.

The secret British part of me is crying at my rudeness right now, and the rest is just

Hey anon! Sorry about not getting to this earlier, I was listening to a chorus of drunks sing Sweet Home Alabama. An engaging activity, to say the least.

Anyways, to answer your question, first off I’m biromantic asexual. I’m capable of romantic attraction to both men and women, and I find them aesthetically attractive (Felicia Day is one of the most beautiful women I’ve seen, in my opinion), but I have no desire to sleep with them - or even kiss them, although that’s not something applicable to all asexual people.

The thing about asexuality is that it, like all sexuality is fluid, and there are few things that apply to every asexual person. I personally wouldn’t mind dating someone, but there would have to be an understanding with that person as to what we’re both comfortable doing and not doing. Slight bit of tmi, but I’ve only been turned on by a bit of fanfiction, a while ago, and it wasn’t even smut. I don’t find people sexually attractive, so I don’t really get turned on by them - even if I am romantically attracted to them.

To summarize, asexuality is a giant spectrum of things, but where I fall on the scale is a person who isn’t sexually attracted to anyone, but is romantically attracted to men and women - and would be okay in a relationship with someone.

Let me know if you’ve got more questions, I don’t mind explaining things at all.

Outside the romantic paradigm, some people form what they’re calling “queerplatonic” relationships. The word indicates nothing about the gender of the participants, but speaks to the desire to “queer” our understandings of platonic friendships. These are relationships of care ­— “life partnerships” that go quite beyond what most of us consider ordinary friendship. Many sexually ambiguous literary or onscreen relationships — think Frodo and Sam, Holmes and Watson, Thelma and Louise — can also be read as queerplatonic.

Reading fanfiction with asexual characters always makes me feel a little warm and fuzzy. Like ‘yay, other people are asexual and they’re in fandoms I’m in and they write things well’ happiness.

◢ Sometimes I think about my sexuality and extended metaphors are born.

Does anyone ever think about how unusual it is that they’re asexual?

I mean, the vast, vast majority of people on this planet are sexually attracted to people. Billions of people. And then there’s the tiny group (maybe 70 million, if the 1 in a 100 statistic is true) of people who aren’t sexually attracted to people. We’re like the kids who were sick when everyone else went on a field trip to a chocolate factory, and when we get back to school everyone talks about how fun it was, and they’re sorry we couldn’t go, and it’s something that they all bring up well into high school, and we just have no idea what the field trip was like. And some of us don’t care, because we hate chocolate, and some of us don’t care because we spent our sick day watching our favorite movies and reading awesome books and that sounds like a lot more fun than visiting a chocolate factory, and some of us always feel left out and wonder why we had to be sick that day. Some of us are a mixture of all three of those things.

But in a school this big, what are the odds that we would be the kids that were sick?

◢ Black Ace Thoughts

merixcil:

voltafiish:

So I’ve been thinking about being black and ace yet again. Haha

Been thinking about what bothers me. So a while back I was looking up things about black women and asexuality and got pretty much next to nothing. I expected that. But what I did find was a lot of scholarly articles about black women and a another “definition” of asexuality. The “asexual in this context means completely sexless and non sexual and desexualized.”

It got me a bit worried. Cause it is true. There has been a long history that still goes on of these shifting goal posts that white supremacy uses to define black women. Black women are hypersexualized. Then you have that subsection of black women who are desexualized and essentially (the context these articles used it as) “asexual.”

Even today I saw the same point being made. Black women in media are not allowed to love and thus are asexual.

And it bothers me. I understand the context of asexual being used that way but what does it mean for me? A black woman (whatever that means) who identifies as asexual.

I realize that within these racist constructs of black women it is all meant to keep black women from defining their own sexuality and agency.

But I do define my sexuality and agency. I am asexual and I do not want sex.

And it makes me wonder about the reaction to black ace women in the media? What will people think? Will they think “Oh see they made this black woman sexless and unloved. She has no agency” or will they think otherwise?

And that’s the problem. Being a black ace woman you can’t escape those racist constructs. That’s how white supremacy works.

If you define yourself as asexual then you have no agency in the media. You are what the world will view you as: cold, loveless, unfeeling. And for black ace women there is that whole other backlash.

It’s not cool. And it makes me wonder if I’ve fallen into another pothole of white supremacy. But I haven’t. Because I have agency and define my sexuality. How other people view it, however, is another story.

Jesus Christ I sure needed this reminder that internationality is as important a consideration in the Ace community as it is in any other oppressed group, so I’m reblogging in case any Ace followers of mine were also in need of such a reminder. 

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◢ Anyone else for making Asexual Awareness Week October 21-27?

moofles:

theotheropinion:

archace:

That’s approximately what time it was last year, and since there’s no real definitive date at the moment does anyone else think we should just make it this?

(If you are part of an Asexual community that is organizing AAW some other week, by all means go for it. I was just throwing this out there for people who don’t necessarily have access to a community)

Because people who don’t have a sex drive or don’t find themselves sexually attracted to other people totally need a community and an awareness week.

I normally agree with theotheropinion, but if people have something in common, then yes they can have a community. Asexuality is an orientation, same as all the other ones. And yes, you can get people who look down upon you or call you names and stuff about it. It’s been a point of contention (like, them screaming at me and thinking I’m broken) between my family and I. Just because constant annoyance isn’t ~*special snowflake oppression*~ does not mean that asexuals don’t have to deal with shit. Everyone thinks they’re a liar or frigid or diseased or something and you know what? It grates on you.

Honestly if there’s one thing that the asexual community needs, it’s awareness. I’d like to help other people from having that experience where they come out to their friends and said friends say “Asexuality? I thought that was a joke. Maybe you’re gay?”

In answer to the archace’s original question, sounds like a good week.

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◢ Asexuality and Gender, sort of.

Right, so a few of you know this, but the rest probably don’t, so here we go: I’m asexual. I’ve known that for about a year, and felt that way for my whole life.

About six months ago I came out to a close friend of mine. She’s the only person I’ve told, aside from my sister, and at the time I was almost crying with relief over how well she took it. She didn’t ask me if I was sure, or tell me that I just needed to find the right guy, she just said ‘Hey, sexuality is a huge thing, and this totally makes sense’. And it was awesome.

Since then we haven’t talked about it much, she just incorporated it into her view of me, so to speak, and it hasn’t been an issue, for which I’m thankful. Recently, however, we were talking, and I mentioned how I don’t feel like a girl, sometimes. That I forget things like the fact I have ‘a large rack’, as it’s been put, that I just feel like a person, like me, and gender doesn’t enter into that much. And she said it was too bad someone couldn’t inspire me to be a girl, or accept that I was one. That maybe that acceptance would lead me to accepting a sexual lifestyle.

I honestly wasn’t sure what to say. She didn’t mean it unkindly, or for it to be an insult, but I felt like it was one. I’m a pretty content asexual, I don’t pine to be normal, most of the time, and the fact that there are people out there who think that the only reason why I don’t have any interest in sex is because I don’t really feel like a girl…that bothered me.

I guess this has pretty much been a post about how I’m not going to live my life waiting to be a late bloomer, and I really hope no one else is doing the same. Basically, accept your friends? Sexuality is fluid, but don’t sit around and wait for water to freeze or ice to melt. Because sometimes it doesn’t.

time-to-exterminate:

kindly leave our tags alone if you’re lonely or trying to make plant jokes. it’s not funny.